Commandments for Parents of Handicapped Children
1. Take one day at a time, and take
that day positively. You don't have control over the future, but you
do have control over today.
2. Never underestimate your child's
potential. Allow him, encourage him, expect him to develop to the
best of his abilities.
3. Find and allow positive mentors:
parents and professionals who can share with you their experience,
advice, and support.
4. Provide and be involved with the
most appropriate educational and learning environments for your
child from infancy on.
5. Keep in mind the feelings and
needs of your spouse and your other children. Remind them that this
child does not get more of your love just because he gets more of
6. Answer only to your conscience:
then you'll be able to answer to your child. You need not justify
your actions to your friends or the public.
7. Be honest with your feelings.
You can't be a super-parent 24hours a day. Allow yourself jealousy,
anger, pity, frustration, and depression in small amounts when ever
8. Be kind to yourself. Don't focus
continually on what needs to be done. Remember to look at what you
9. Stop and smell the roses. Take
advantage of the fact that you have gained a special appreciation
for the little miracles in life that others take for granted.
10. Keep and use a sense of humor.
Cracking up with laughter can keep you from cracking up from stress.